Talking

This evening I had a lovely time, I got to talk to some of my friends-- guys and girls. We had a good discussion about relationships. So for those of you who have questions, ask and the answer will be given to you!

For instance when the girls were asked what they found attractive in a guy, these were some of the answers...

-Be cocky, but not arrogant. Cocky is a confidence and joking pride, arrogant is just pride. Arrogant is NOT attractive.

-Pursue the girl, but don't rush things. The girl wants you to do the pursuing, but not you throwing yourself at her feet.

-Never compare her, to anyone! I personally, find it very annoying when people compare things I do to things they have seen in others. Girls like being their own person.

-Find special ways to show that you like her, and if she does something quirky that you appreciate tell her so!

-Don't use Facebook or texting or phone calls, for important discussions. Wait till you can do it in person!

-Don't belittle women, or the girl you are talking to. It's demeaning and rude.

-Be yourself! Don't force humor, or personality, or appearance. The right girl will like you for who you are. And please don't change yourself for the girl you like, it's not being honest to yourself or the girl!

And here are some things we girls found out...

-Don't wear too much make-up. It's more attractive to wear a little bit of make-up just to enhance your natural beauty.

-Dress naturally. Wear clothes that fit the situation, dress-up sometimes and dress comfortably as well.

-Ditzy... don't do it!

-Don't have huge melt-downs in front of guys... it freaks them out. Instead just discuss things, if you have something you want to discuss... be approachable so that they feel they can talk and give you advice.

-Don't be the kind of girl that is always hanging out with all the guys. Have girl friends too!

-Be yourself! Don't fake your appearance, or your personality.

So the most important thing? BE YOURSELF!!!! It's important to be honest, to yourself and everyone else too. Also the biggest thing for me... have a relationship with Jesus that is more important then anything else. As we are creatures who long for love and relationships, I think talking about it is important! But remember our definition doesn't come from other people... it comes from Jesus. So follow Him!

'A woman’s heart should be so hidden in Christ

That a man should have to seek Him first to find her." -Maya Angelou